Finding Yourself While Taking Care of Your World

Life is full. Full of love, responsibility, joy, and sometimes, overwhelming pressure. If you’re reading this, you might be standing in a beautiful but challenging season of life, one where your time and energy are constantly poured into those you care about, and there’s little left for the person in the mirror. I see you. I am you. This blog is for us.

The Many Hats We Wear

You may be a partner, a parent, a caregiver, a guide. You might be planning a wedding, helping with homework, managing medications, and researching mortgage rates, all in in the same week. Each role you take on comes with its own set of emotions: joy, pride, pressure, fear. And while these roles are fulfilling, they can also make it hard to hear your own voice amidst the noise.

When You Start to Crave Change

That quiet desire inside you, that whisper for something new, is not selfish. It’s not wrong. It’s wisdom. It’s your spirit tapping you on the shoulder saying, “Don’t forget about me.” Wanting a new vision for yourself doesn't mean you love your life any less. It means you're ready to evolve with it.

The Struggle of the “Helper”

As a caregiver, You've been trained to empower others. You’re the rock. The planner. The one with answers. But giving guidance and receiving it are two very different things. I know for myself, sometimes the hardest person to coach is myself and I bet you feel the same way. 

So here’s the truth: even the strongest people need support. Even the most intuitive leaders need to be reminded of their own worth, their own dreams, their own limits.

How Do You Care for Yourself When Everyone Needs You?

1. Start Small, But Start With You
   Self-care doesn’t have to be a weeklong retreat (though you deserve one). It can be a 10-minute walk without your phone. Journaling before bed. Listening to music that speaks to you. The key is consistency. You matter enough to create even a small ritual that is yours alone.

2. Anchor Yourself in the Future You Want
   You’re planting roots soon, maybe in a new home, in a marriage, in yours and your families next chapter. What kind of person do you want to be when that house becomes a home? Envision her. Give her a name. Give her habits. Then, start showing up for her today, even in the smallest ways.

3. Release the Pressure of Perfection
   You won’t get it all right. No one does. Some days you’ll feel like you’ve poured from an empty cup. And guess what, that’s okay. What matters is that you noticed. Self-awareness is the first step toward change, and you’re already there.

4. Find Joy in the Now While Building for Tomorrow
   Life isn’t waiting for your to-do list to be done. It’s happening right now, in kitchen dance parties, in the quiet car rides, in unexpected hugs. Let those moments fuel you. Let them remind you as to why your future is worth investing in.

5. Speak Kindly to Yourself
   You are doing an extraordinary job in extraordinary circumstances. Talk to yourself the way you talk to your children, your clients, your partner, with grace, love, and encouragement. You’re still becoming, and that’s a beautiful thing.

And Remember: You Are Not Alone!

So many of us are walking this delicate line between holding space for everyone else and not letting ourselves fall. You are not failing, you are becoming. And in this messy, magical in-between space, you are allowed to want more. More peace. More clarity. More you.

Let this be your permission slip to dream, to breathe, and to come home to yourself, right where you are.

With Love & Gratitude,

Coach Jo <3